Family life becomes so much easier and more rewarding when parents learn how to create an environment of mutual respect. In this proven program, developed over twenty-five years, parents discover that beneath the surface children and teens want to be cooperative, independent, and responsible. They also want to develop grit, gain resilience, and relate more kindly with siblings and friends. Knowing this, we can view their difficult behavior as a cry for help: “Help me find a more effective way to meet my legitimate needs.”
This landmark book offers parents the tools they need to help their children and teens become the young people they truly want to be. As parents and children gain trust that they’re on the same team, everything changes.
Throughout the book, Dr. Val-Essen supports readers with compassion, insight, real-life stories, and humorous illustrations as she guides them in developing the skills they need to remain calm and centered more often, to prevent problems before they happen, and to create a truly fulfilling family experience.
Imagine a new paradigm of parenting that dramatically changes the way we relate to our children. Doors open that were previously closed, freeing us to parent with a wiser and more compassionate heart. Dr. Val-Essen reveals a new vision of the parent-child relationship and provides a Six-Step Process to help us realize it.
Powerful stories, proven skills, and practical exercises inspire and guide us to expand our minds and open our hearts. As we gain a deeper understanding of our children and ourselves, we're able to parent with wisdom and compassion even when buttons are pushed and fear takes center stage. Children and parents flourish. Family life becomes deeply rewarding.